Viewing post #536225 by Frillylily

Moved indeed. And moved and moved. Would have been homeless if we didn't have family who took us in. We moved from MO to OK, sold our house (READ-- MY BELOVED GARDEN
Then my dh had health problems and couldn't keep his job. We are a one income family due to my homeschooling our girls who both have special needs and then also I care for my son who is disabled so I am unable to work. That meant moving back to MO and bumming off of family and living on welfare lol

We were jobless for 6 months and now my husband is only working for like 3 days a week. Anyway, we bought a house last summer but it is a dump. I mean big time. The people who sold it were actually thinking of bulldozing it. But we fell in love with the yard and the location, we are gutting the house room by room a little at a time. It is expensive, hard work, but it is coming along and will be nice when we are done. In the mean time, there is practically nothing here promising for a garden. The soil is very hard and rooty (just cut about 15 trees down and hauled off) and the sewer leach field is smack all over the back of the yard and there practically isn't a front yard much. But it is 1.4 acres and has a bunch of mature hardwood trees on the lower end. It does have a septic tank and a well so that is wonderful. The side yard will make a nice shade garden if the sweet gum tree there does't throw out too many roots. I have a LOVELY hemlock there too but for some reason I have a gut feeling it is dying. First off it is the only tree on the place I really have feelings for lol so that automatically means it will die Secondly it lost a large amount of needles last summer/fall, and I don't know why. Can't find any reason for it. So anyway the whole place needs work and I lost a lot of plants/money not to mention all the WORK -15 years!- when I moved. I can't even imagine what it will take to rebuild my beds, improve the soil and get in loosened, start new trees and shrubs and get my daylilies and a vegetable bed going again. WAY to depressing to think about. Way. And to top it off, my mom still lives right behind my old house and the new people who bought my little house with the oak cabinets and pink floor tile, have completely ruined the yard. Really. It is too stressful to drive by. Even one of the elderly neighbors said she sat in her window and cried the day they had a backhoe come out and obliterate the gorgeous flower bed in the front yard. They planted some puny trees there in a row. Only I guess they aren't smart enough to realize the water main is RIGHT underneath where they put them. Plus the soil there is severe clay and rock so they will never live. They already had 2 of the trees die, I suspect because they were too lazy to water them last summer. The poor soil conditions and the water main, are why I put in an 12" tall raised bed. I figure it could be put together again if the water needed worked on, but you can't put back a tree! They only mowed the yard 3 times last summer, once only mowing paths around the yard. They parked an old junk car out behind the shed. The flower beds in the back yard have weeds in them taller than me, it was unreal. They took out the fish pond saying they were afraid their daughter would drown in it, even though it was fenced off from the yard. totally weird. BOO HOO! (ok I am counting to 10 and doing breathing exercises now...) I just have to remind myself that it isn't mine anymore. My mind knows that, but the rest of me wants to kick them out and doctor everything back up, I feel so sorry for it all... now you KNOW I am a nutcase LOL I have post traumatic I-sold-my-home syndrome !