Breathe deep…breathe deep…breathe deep. Okay, so at 7:23pm last night, Blondy casually announces she is going to work and her ride is almost here. Uh-huh. Your work start time is 7:00pm. You said you didn't have to work, that you just wanted to be allowed to stay overnight to get a ride to court. Which means you lied to all of us—again. Made a big deal of ‘I’m coming back here’ when sister challenged her about being ready to go at 6:30am this morning for court. Okay, again. And what time did you come sneaking in? Yep, 5:10am this morning. But did you get ready to go to court? No, you sacked out on the couch until sister woke you at 6:00. Woke you again at 6:15. So who gets pissy and stompy when we all try to hurry her out the door? When she has been told at least three times in my hearing that she needed to be ready to leave at 6:30 and no later? Later, Shorty tells us that Blondy posted party photos from last night all over her Facebook account. Does she really think we are so stupid as to not look, or does she just not care? It is a true waste of energy, but I am beginning to hate that girl. Contacting Legal Aid today to find out if they will take me as a client and go for custody. Will do so without telling sister. We are going to butt heads on this one because I don’t think she can get past her ‘oh, she’ll be better and straighten up’ mentality. Have no problem going toe-to-toe with her if it comes to boy-child’s well-being.
DNA test done, next hearing is November 18th.
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New Day. Legal Aid only does intake applications by appointment. Phone should be delivered by Thursday, will call then.
Blondy supposed to pick up money from sister for something about which I don't want to know. No show and no call. No show next day. Calls at 8p, said lost phone and to leave money in mailbox. No show. Find out her new ‘friends’ stole her stuff and she is staying somewhere else again. Welp, that was a set-in-concrete-gonna-happen and she has only herself to look to for responsibility.
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New Day. Having a difficult time stepping over the baby gates these days. Today everything creaked, cranked, or clanked. Tempery and impatient with boy-child. Yelled at him for something little. Put him down for a nap early so I wouldn’t yell at him again over something about which I’d feel bad.
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Several New Days. Blondy came by October 7 for five minutes, supposedly to see baby. Came by next day for five minutes, supposedly to see baby, but she had been to her paternal grandparents to ask for money and this place was just on the way. Grrrrrrrrrr. Came next day, she said to spend day with boy-child, but she has all her stuff with her and I think she just needed someplace to be. Boy ran to her and stayed for a few minutes, then came back to me in my room. Didn’t want to go out to his mother. A petty part of me is snickering. The better part of me is sad.
Good feeling having a little money again. Called yard man. Getting estimates for several jobs that have been put off for a lonnnnggg time.
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New Day. Food aid getting cut off because they somehow decided Shorty and girl-child don’t live here any longer. Time for that dance again. Boy-child has cold. Going to other grandparents tomorrow night.
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Many New Days. Been really creaky, weary, cranky, weepy, and just worn down. DNA hearing is now November 5. If proved out, and if this guy is fit, I will be pushing for him to get custody. Don’t think I have the stamina to keep up with boy-child really long-term and Blondy will never be ready to take him back. The guy she is living with right now shoved her around, hit her in the stomach, threw her phone, and took her money because she challenged him on having another girl in the bed while she was at work. Her bad choices, her consequences. She left for a day, but went back. Says ‘they talked it out and he apologized.’ Yeah, I’m sure he did. Just as sure as I am that this will happen again and worse and sooner. Then he will apologize again, she will go back, and here’s the merry-go-round one more time…sigh. What makes me maddest about her fecklessness is that she didn’t renew boy-child’s Medicaid even when sister and I BOTH reminded her and she said, "Oh, yeah, I need to do that, I'll do that." Found out AFTER I got him to the doctor that it was inactive. He needed to be seen, so I paid the fee using money I had finally gathered for one of my meds. Told sister to text Blondy that she was NOT to come around here for awhile until I calmed down or I would physically hurt her. I mean I was ready to slam her up against the wall and bang her head. I only ever get that angry when it comes to babies and kids being neglected, but I HATE it when it happens and am extremely thankful it happens so rarely. All that hostility gives me a headache. Blondy had the stones to come by anyway, said she had the money put aside and would pay me back. But she let this *^$!*& take it, so I am just SOL on that one. GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.
Okay, nicer thoughts, nicer thoughts. OHG bulbs shipped. They were quite generous with the substitutions, almost doubling the amount of bulbs I was supposed to get. One of them is the same name as Shorty’s mama’s nickname and I am putting those in the memorial bed.
Got three noid Clematis, a Lemon Fizz Kordes Rose, a Raspberry Sundae Peony and two Celebrity Peonies from mj. Dug up and potted an Agapanthus and a Thai Basil to plant the Raspberry and Lemon–fruity theme here? . Put the Celebrities in the memorial bed. Planted one of the Clematis by the farthest most Rose of Sharon tree. If the colors are too gaudy for that area, will think of somewhere else. Might keep the other two in pots over Winter. Have an idea for one of them, but have a lot of tree saplings to dig out/kill first. Was hoping for the twining-clinging type, no such luck; howsomeever, I am sure they will be pretty. Might get one of the ones I wanted when she had the sale a couple of years back and couldn’t afford. MAYBE I might even get lucky enough to have an Arctic Queen in there—mine died from my actions and the ONLY source from which to get a replacement wants $25 for one. I don’t like it that much! :-D OR, mayyyyyybe there will be a Venosa Violacea! Have gotten to the point these days where I want only named varieties of plants. Have to say, though, that it is exciting to think about what there will be on the clematis come Spring. The Kordes rose will be great. They all are. Peonies will be a toss-up. I know they will grow, just don’t know if these will bloom in my zone, or where I have them planted. Another Spring surprise, but year after next. Pretty sure won’t have any blooms next year. Will at least see if they leaf out, though. Good enough for the present.
Shorty ditched the loser boyfriend and has a ‘girlfriend’ now…sigh…well, at least she won’t turn up pregnant…
Rain expected for the next 24 hours, up to 4 inches at my house, with some severe weather here and there. Going to put sister’s car under the carport this evening when she gets home in case the hail hits this area. Come on rain, the flowers need ya!!!
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Very little rain. Disappointing, but maybe more next week. In the meantime, the sun is shining today, the temperature is coolly comfortable, and a beautiful breeze is blowing. Time to get outside for awhile.
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