Dave and I have a pretty set-in-stone areas of responsibilities. I do my set every day, and he does his.
Thankfully, he doesn't ask me to go code ATP, and in return, I don't ask him to homeschool 5 children and take care of 2 toddlers.
We're both happy with that arrangement!
When he's not here, the older children and I split up with farm chores, and that works out great.
So, I'm happy to let him attend the conferences, although I do visit around Texas when it works out.