Thank you for the detailed responses, the plant must be going dormant, the leaves have mostly fallen off, the caudex does not feel like it has any rot, so that is a good thing. I am going to let it dry for a while, and if I don't see any new leaves in three months, I will give a little water.
It's crazy how some of the Adenium go dormant, and others do not. I have one that has full leaves, my seedlings are also doing pretty good.
I must have caused the red and spotty leaves while trying to kill off the mites, hopefully when the new leaves come in they will look normal.
