Well, I have seen the pistil thing, bent, not properly formed, many (split) pistils. I don't know if anything causes it or it's just a thing that happens, but it's not unusual for it to happen here. I have been told that it happens more on tets than dips, but not sure how true that is.
Now for the pods, they may be breaking off because they are aborting. Just because you get a pod doesn't mean it will want to stay there.
I have had some that are big and fat and then decide to abort. I had tons of pods on one daylily, probably 20 or 30, and one by one they have slowly aborted. I think I have 2 or 3 left. Usually means the seeds weren't viable or that there were no seeds at all in the pod. I have opened up some that I new was fixing to drop off and there were no seeds at all.
How big are these pods that are breaking off? I'm sure there are other causes, but this is just what I have observed here.
Now for the upside Mona, you know good and well if every bloom took or most of them you would have wayyyyyy too many seeds to plant and you would run out of room that much sooner
So think of it as a blessing.
Scapes getting broke is probably scape blasting. If the daylilies get too much water too fast it is said they can blast. Have you had a lot of rain lately. I read somewhere else, may have been the email robin, that the people who gets lots of rain that they usually don't get they see more scape blasting. Someone mentioned somewhere that a lot of fertilizer will do it also, but that may not be correct.