Toni ...
I don't do containers well, either. Especially in this climate. I truly understand about forgetting to water containers. I actually set up a small drip system for containers so I could grow roses up so that they had a larger root mass before planting.
If you do find a rose that you just have to have, t-mail me and I will share some of the things I've learned about gardening in lousy soil and a harsher climate, for me, that you might want to try.
Smiles,
Lyn