Arghhhhhh! Well, I have a similar story with one exception .... my daughter-in-law was given one in a pretty pot by me for Christmas. She was excited because she knows their value. She displayed it proudly, but unfortunately did not put it where there was enough light. It never bloomed and eventually died. (sigh) I did keep reminding her it needed to be on a window sill or displayed on her screened porch to get sunlight. I won't do that again either. She grows other things too that usually don't make it. I think the main problem is the lighting in their house. It's dark where she tries to grow most all her plants. I call them disposable plants!
I think folks who actually grow and collect them know how to treat them. All others, it's hit and miss .... or just luck. (Or follow the instructions precisely.
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